booty call

Dating after divorce. Where do you even begin? Well as with most bad decisions alcohol. Grab a glass of wine and your sense of humor because nothing prepares you for dating! I got married really young, 19 years old, and was married for nearly 13 years. During that time online dating changed the game, I personally cannot say for sure for the worse but in my idealized fantasy of how dating is supposed to go on-line changed dating into a shit show.

How I thought dating was supposed to go… from watching to many RomComs… who does love a RomCom?! Girl sees cute guy across a coffee shop, he catches he gaze and smiles at her, she smiles back, he walks over, complements her on the book she is reading, she giggles, he complements how amazing her smile is, asks if he can sit with her, they have an amazing conversation, he asks for her phone number, he calls her, plans a date, they date…..

No. NO. NOOO…… enter the swipe right age….

Nothing prepared me for the first messages it went something like this….

GUY: “hey”

ME: “Hello”

GUY:  *crickets*

Ghosting is a thing

GUY: “Hey there cutie”

ME: “Hi, how are you?”

GUY: “Are you DTF?”

ME: *googles DTF*

Deletes profile.

Recently I received a facebook message from a brother of a guy I have known since kindergarten. We messaged a bit, friendly stuff. I was keeping it friendly as I wasn’t wanting to date at the moment, (I had broken up with a great guy and still heartbroken). He asked to hang out not a date. I agreed. We made plans for that Saturday, to go to a trendy bar, no time set in stone.

Saturday morning I hear the ping of Facebook massager which is odd since I set my phone to do not disturbe. I read the message, it’s from the guy, “I can’t sleep lol”. Me being the kind caring mom type and having been there unable to sleep and needing to talk to someone I take the bait, “why”, I ask. “To much on my mind”, he replies. Awww I know that feeling, as I am typing “Usually I can’t sleep when I am over thinking”. When I get this message ” kinda ‘in the mood’ if you know what I mean”……

*screech* Hold up! Are you kidding me?! He seriously thinks he can wake me up with a “I’m horny message”. I am trying to come up with a bitchy witty come back, I toy with….”pick right or left” , “bummer sounds like a personal problem” … while I am plotting my response he texts a few more times and it must have registered with him, “did I wake you?” …. “Yes I was a sleep” was my reply and as I am trying to remember what Matthew Hussy from Gettheguy.com would say to do in this situation….He texts again “I’m sorry, won’t ever happen again”.

The next day I hear nothing. I am having lunch with my good friend when she invites me to a concert in the park later that night. At this point I am not interested in hanging out. At 8pm he texts me something about having trouble finding a babysitter and asks if I am still down to hang out. (I am assuming he wanted me to “hang out” at his house…one thing on his mind) I don’t respond. I post pictures of us that the concert.

I love to find the silver linings is everything.

The Silver Lining in this story: I expressed my boundaries, I showed I was a high value woman and I have a funny story of the time I got a 3am booty call.

One thing I have taken away from dating sites and the attempted booty calls; keep your head up and in a way it is flattering, but you are better than that. Date yourself first; after all you are the best date! You will always love what you pick. And there is nothing wrong with checking out hotties on the sights. I even make a game of it right, left, right, left… right for 10 no matter what; you get some interesting people and who knows you might make someone’s day or met someone really great. Don’t give up.

 

Glamp Mish

Glamp Mish is like summer camp only Glamorous!

Our Glamp Mish starts with the back story: I started working at my children’s school over 3 years ago, pre divorce. It was the perfect mommy job; part time, off when the kids are off and a little extra money. I continued through my divorce and current because it works not only with my kids but I am going back to school as well (I never finished my degree in interior design) now for Criminal Justice (funny how we find out life passions during the lowest points of life:). When making the decisson to get a part time summer job or be a full time mom this summer I decided it very well could be my last non-working summer with my kids. I had to make this the best summer ever! In my humble opinion it has been for me personally.

Welcome to Glamp Mish:

How does one even have the best summer ever?? It seemed like a daunting task and scared the shit out of me. We started with a Summer Bucket list : Crested Butte Colorado (our as we call it Crusty Butt), Glenwood Springs and Backpacking (my oldest daughters summer bucket for two summers now – she’s 11! I think I need another year.) We have two major theme parks here in Denver, one is Water World, we got season passes. And we always do the local library reading programs, add in their time with dad and birthday parties, play dates, and other camps it was some what do able. After a bit of research on Pinterest I found camp theme weeks, brilliant!!

Theme Week: Welcome Summer

Welcome Summer

welcome summer basket

Welcome Summer baskets:

From Dollar Tree:

Handle basket – I saw a pin about using these for snacks in the car and                                originally had that in mind for them. My kids use them on the railing of                                their bunk beds as a bedside caddy. 🙂

Cup with straw, squirt gun, coloring book, work search book, and Pop                                 Rocks because they are fabulous! And sunglasses.

From The Children’s place:

Flip flops – There was a great sale in May the flip flops were $2 a pair!                                 Such a great deal when you have to buy 4 of everything.

In all each basket was less than $10 a piece and the kids were so excited when they walked in our house and saw a basket welcoming them home from dad’s. I also grabbed other random summer type things to bring out throughout the summer; kites, glow sticks, water balloons…

With each theme when we go to the library I have the kids pick out books, an audio book to listen in the car and movies. Of course the blog is after the fact…and I can’t remember everything. :/

Book ideas:

“The day the Crayons Quit”

“Judy Moody and the not Bummer Summer”

Movie ideas:

“Now and then”

“Stand by me”

“Sand lot”

 

King Arthur and his Knights

RenFest

Audio Book:

“King Arthur and his knights” The kids adored this story, we listened all week driving around town finishing while we drove to the local Renaissance Festival. And bonus because the book was over 600 pages all the kids met and exceeded their reading logs at the library. Mom win!

Books:

“Princess Academy” by Shannon Hale – My oldest daughter (11) loved this book

Food:

I tried a beef stew, the kids were all about it when I was making it. They ate minimal. And then snuck into snacks later. I swear I wont buy snacks anymore then I sucker into it.

 

renfest2

Funny story: We are walking through the Renessance Festival and a performer / vender points at my dress and says, “I like your Cos Play of Arizona Iced tea”. I still like the dress, we call it my AZ tea dress. Continue reading “Theme Week: Welcome Summer”